Gifts can be anything from a commodity through to an act of kindness.
When we give we often experience a sense of power. You might not like the use of the word power in relation to giving so I’ll put it another way.
You may feel elated and a sense of achievement.
Yes it's often a very rewarding feeling to be able to give. We all like to feel good! It’s awesome to be generous and believe that you have something worthwhile to share.
Is this why we give? To feel good.
Do we give to receive?
Sometimes gifts are accompanied with a sense of duty and responsibility that can bewilder or burden the receiver. Being on the receiving end of a gift is a whole new post, better left for another day.
Often when we give we have an intention for the gift and may also have an expectation as to what we should receive in return.
It can be as simple as giving an ornament that is intended for display and for whatever reasons it’s not!
Therefore we as the gift giver can experience a myriad of emotions in relation to the whole gift giving process. The reward for giving doesn’t meet our expectations!
Acts of kindness are often done with unconscious expectations. You might catch yourself saying “they didn’t even say thank you!”
Sometimes acts of generosity can be disempowerment for another. Being an over attentive parent is an example of this or an over bearing carer to any person.
So is the gift of giving beyond the ability to share?
I think so. The real gift of giving is being able to let go!
In doing so you’ll feel great about the act of being able to give. No expectation, no disappointment!
Taking responsibility for what you give enables you to consider the gift and what it is going to be to the person receiving it.
"You get what you give!" If our gift giving is loaded with complexities and unrealistic expectations – well you know the rest.
What do you think?
After all we’ve not long departed from the biggest gift giving season of the year. You know the one Christmas.
Who knows, it may be worthwhile to look your gift horse in the mouth!